Just after Valentine’s Day is the perfect time for this discussion while some of you are still basking in the afterglow.
People are so lost in, and confused by, what they consider to be love these days; it is time we sorted this out once and for all, and set the record straight.
These might be the wisest words I have ever written:
Only fools believe sex and love are related!
Sex and its effects are temporary while “true love” lasts your entire life no matter what transpires.
Love is built or destroyed by the qualities of a person’s character.
Empathy, compassion, morals, scruples, intelligence, and integrity are reasons to fall for someone possessing most or ideally all six of these character traits.
Physical appearance, voice, scent, taste, and a knowing touch are reasons to have sex, but they ARE NOT legitimate reasons for thinking we are in love.
For far too many people, their idea of love speaks of “loving feelings” which are usually strongest after sex but weaken again with time. How many times have we seen or heard the words:
“I am SO in love right now!”
This is NOT love. If you need further clarification, my book offers science-based explanations of sex and its effects, as well as the biological imperatives which drive us to partner up. Don’t worry, it’s a light-ish read.
Just because you choose to be in a committed relationship, DOES NOT mean you are in love.
You cannot force love into a sexual relationship even if it comes with the added perks of companionship, convenience, and security. You may “love” being in a relationship, but this IS NOT the same as being “in love”.